It is really amazing how the work you are pursuing gives you a lifelong lesson. This is verbatim true for the Australian Nurse and Counselor Bronnie Ware. Her job consisted of providing relief and counseling to the patients who have less than 12 weeks of life or very old people with serious illness waiting to die. As a part of the therapy the nurse would ask her patients for any regrets they had in their lives.
Amidst a plethora of regrets, 5 stood out as the common ones. Undoubtedly, the 5 regrets make for an amazing life lesson for those who are healthy and still alive.
So, here is the list:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
This ranked #1 as the commonest of all regrets. When people are alive, full of passion, aspiring to fulfill their dreams, many obstacles come in their way. One of which is hesitation to pursue it, due to the norms set by the family, the society and friends. If you are one of those, who are ceasing his or her aspiration for someone else, remember that these voices will not matter to you, when you are in your death bed. Chase your dreams!
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard
This is what most of the breadwinners told Bronnie. They regretted that they worked too hard, to the extent that they neglected their children and even the companionship of their spouse. It was because they believed in hard work and just that. Unknown to the fact, that this is just one life they have and they ought to make a balance. Just if they could have created more space for happiness and spent time with those who mean the most to them.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
Her patients felt that they had suppressed their true feelings, to the extent that they had let bitterness harbor on their lives. Undoubtedly it is the bitterness which paralyzed them emotionally. It made a mark on their lives by acting as an obstacle in the way of fulfilling the true potential. Being honest with your feelings and confronting when necessary is the need to live happy and die contented.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
Friendship is a tree which requires the time, effort and love as part of investments. At the death bed there is not a feeling which matters more than friendship. The patients in accordance with Bronnie missed their old chaps and pals. Well, definitely it is a busy life out there. So much in the platter considering work, commitment, goals. Thus, it is advisable to not let work take a toll on your friendly relations.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier
Happiness or unhappiness is a choice. You cannot be happy, until you decide to. In fact, it is much more than status, power, wealth and achievement. While, you might think that those could have been the epitome of happiness, the truth is different. So, learning to relax and appreciating the good things in the life is the key to happiness. Do not let go of that key!